Taking care of these areas before success is the key.

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“It’s not the will to win that matters — everyone has that. It’s the will to prepare to win that matters.” — Paul Bear Bryant

Many people fall in their best moments when they are on the cusp of success. How is it possible?

When they keep making money, have a profitable business, a nice family, and invest everywhere, they start making bad choices and building their own road to failure.

I see everywhere in different forms. Originally I thought is a matter of education, but I was wrong. To clarify my point, these are some examples:


You’ll be so good that they can’t ignore you.

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“Be afraid of the quiet ones. They are the ones who actually think.” — Unknown

Have you ever noticed how the most charismatic person in the room seems happy to listen sooner than speak?

I have friends who talk a lot; I have never been the most talkative guy in the room. When I moved here to NY from Lima, my city, I thought it was because I wasn't confident enough to communicate deeper because of the different languages.

Later on, I started to wonder: In my city, have I ever been the most talkative guy in the room?

Step 4: Are you asking for what you deserve?

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“If you’re not making someone else’s life better, you’re living yours wrong” — Unknown.

Last night I had a conversation with my wife. When you were single, she asked: what was your way to finding someone you believed would be the right person?

I was surprised by the question. The truth is, I never thought too much about it when I was dating someone. After that question, I started to think and recognize what I perceived on those dates.

Sometimes when you start dating someone, you do not think about anything. The purpose is to have a good time; that’s…

Work is a rubber ball.

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“Wisdom is your perspective on life, your sense of balance, your understanding of how the various parts and principles apply and relate to each other.”- Steven R. Covey.

The best advice in life come from people you don't even know.

Sound weird, but it is true. They don't come from friends or family members. They come from people that you saw once or twice in life. Maybe it is a coincidence, but they are the most valuable if applied in life.

I’ve been working in the restaurant business for years as a chef and waiter. I cannot complain about the…

Give them a try. Just a bit of time is required.

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“Be pleasant until ten o’clock in the morning and the rest of the day will take care of itself. “— Elbert Hubbard

The sum of tiny actions every day can change the course of your life drastically.

I tested each method to be calm and aware of the decisions I made daily. Back in time, with a narrow mind, I didn't think about it. Making wrong decisions according to what I would get from it.

I have changed habits lately, from putting my thoughts on a piece of paper to changing diapers for my daughters. Being a father with two…

And we keep saying we don't.

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“I refuse to accept other people’s ideas of happiness for me. As if there’s a ‘one size fits all’ standard for happiness.” — Kanye West

Have you ever felt like your life is bland?

Most people aren’t satisfied in life, but they refuse to recognize it. And keep telling themselves to be grateful for what they have, even if that covers just their basic needs.

I‘m in the stage in life that I take everything as a grain of salt. I adore reading books, it is interesting to grasp other people's brains, but I questioned a bunch of stuff.


Don't overthink too much.

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“The saddest thing is to be a minute to someone,
when you’ve made them your eternity.”―
Sanober Khan

Life is short to waste your time on people who don't esteem, respect, or value the effort you keep making to build a solid relationship.

But on the other side, it‘s been hard to find your “better half.”

Besides, many people put conditions on choosing “the right person.” Our society, including social media, contributes to it, making it even harder. Spending time focusing on all the flaws while picking the best mate. We put our attention on things like:

Time apart is essential.

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“Let’s not forget it’s you and me vs. The problem…Not you vs. Me.” — Steve Maraboli

The quote above is probably the most precise conclusion about the usual dilemmas in all relationships.

The root of the fruit? An undesired friend — “The ego.”

Days ago, I had a conversation with my wife. She asked:

Chamarro, did you remember when you used to say that you never wanted to be married? There’s no sense in signing a piece of paper to commit to someone. It doesn’t say anything.

Start to accept help from others in one of them.

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Can you imagine yourself in 5 years from now? The person you are dreaming of being. What about if you start being the person of your dreams now?

I have been testing new habits recently. Some of them were unworthy and hard to follow, meanwhile others easier with wondrous outcomes.

Indeed, every day is a new experience; you ignore things that will arise in your way. …

Keep memories instead of taking pictures.

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“If you haven’t found it yet, keep looking. Don’t settle. As with all matters of the heart, you’ll know when you find it. And, like any great relationship, it just gets better and better as the years roll on.” — Steve Jobs.

People feel bored and unfulfilled almost every day. They treat a new day as one more or one less of their entire life.

Some of them refuse the notion of trying something new rather than keeping their boring routine. Ignoring the cost of that choice and having a monotone existence.

Trying new things can be undoubtedly daunting. The…

Godofredo Rojas

Coach, Writer, & Constant learner. Inspiring people through Personal Stories. https://www.linkedin.com/in/godofredo-rojas-8298531b0/

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