Don't overthink too much.

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“The saddest thing is to be a minute to someone,
when you’ve made them your eternity.”―
Sanober Khan

Life is short to waste your time on people who don't esteem, respect, or value the effort you keep making to build a solid relationship.

But on the other side, it‘s been hard to find your “better half.”

Besides, many people put conditions on choosing “the right person.” Our society, including social media, contributes to it, making it even harder. Spending time focusing on all the flaws while picking the best mate. We put our attention on things like:

  • She/he has to…


Taking care of these areas before success is the key.

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“It’s not the will to win that matters — everyone has that. It’s the will to prepare to win that matters.” — Paul Bear Bryant

Many people fall in their best moments when they are on the cusp of success. How is it possible?

When they keep making money, have a profitable business, a nice family, and invest everywhere, they start making bad choices and building their own road to failure.

I see everywhere in different forms. Originally I thought is a matter of education, but I was wrong. To clarify my point, these are some examples:

  • Why sports players…


LESSON

You’ll be so good that they can’t ignore you.

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“Be afraid of the quiet ones. They are the ones who actually think.” — Unknown

Have you ever noticed how the most charismatic person in the room seems happy to listen sooner than speak?

I have friends who talk a lot; I have never been the most talkative guy in the room. When I moved here to NY from Lima, my city, I thought it was because I wasn't confident enough to communicate deeper because of the different languages.

Later on, I started to wonder: In my city, have I ever been the most talkative guy in the room?


Step 4: Are you asking for what you deserve?

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“If you’re not making someone else’s life better, you’re living yours wrong” — Unknown.

Last night I had a conversation with my wife. When you were single, she asked: what was your way to finding someone you believed would be the right person?

I was surprised by the question. The truth is, I never thought too much about it when I was dating someone. After that question, I started to think and recognize what I perceived on those dates.

Sometimes when you start dating someone, you do not think about anything. The purpose is to have a good time; that’s…


Work is a rubber ball.

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“Wisdom is your perspective on life, your sense of balance, your understanding of how the various parts and principles apply and relate to each other.”- Steven R. Covey.

The best advice in life come from people you don't even know.

Sound weird, but it is true. They don't come from friends or family members. They come from people that you saw once or twice in life. Maybe it is a coincidence, but they are the most valuable if applied in life.

I’ve been working in the restaurant business for years as a chef and waiter. I cannot complain about the…


It takes time to digest.

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“Every new beginning comes from some other beginning’s end.” — Seneca

One thing about the school of experience is that it will repeat the lesson if you flunk the first time. That is why pain is just a lesson once you heal.

Last year was a huge box of surprises for many people, according to studies. And I’m far from the exception. Working every day from 9 to 5 job was easier than be at home and deal with the usual housework. Even harder having to children waiting for me.

To embrace the idea that the world is changing was…


What are you aiming for?

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“What I like and what I need’s two different things.” ― J.D. Jordan

High expectations lead to higher disappointments.

The second I learned, the enormous difference between “wants” and “needs” was life-changing.

Our expectations play again us many times. We want a perfect partner, the most beautiful, the smartest, the funniest, the richest. Then we regret later our bad decisions—a big disappointment for a huge expectation. And ending up wonder about how weird is love.

Sure, there is not a magic formula to get your better half. …


Make sure if it was intentional

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“Be patient and tough, someday this pain will be useful to you.” — Ovid

It’s better to break your own heart once than having someone breaking it every day.

There are certain days when we feel down, many times due to uncomfortable situations that occurred the day before. Maybe you are still ruminating about the bad comment your partner said before sleep.

It’s important to consider how they affect your mental health.

Probably, the person you care most about said a hurtful word. But what if that person had not intention? What if was your perception that drives those emotions?


The ones we all know and hate.

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“A simple rule in dealing with those who are hard to get along with is to remember that this person is striving to assert his superiority, and you must deal with him from that point of view.” — Alfred Alder

Problems become opportunities when the right people get together. A lot of them would disappear if we talked to each other instead of about each other.

They are sort of identical everywhere. All of them come from the same root — Interpersonal relationship barriers.

If you’re having a hard time financially, it’s interpersonal relationship issues. Probably there is a misunderstanding…


They refuse to be only consumers.

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“Chains of habit are too light to be felt until they are too heavy to be broken.” — Unknown.

Have you ever see a guy who experienced bullying ending up as a successful entrepreneur?

Maybe it‘s a coincidence, but mostly friends I used to consider shy from my childhood end up building a decent legacy. So what did they do differently?

Few people had the perception about the future like them. While some of us were thinking about having fun, they were multiple steps forward. They were looking for a way to make their future better.

Recently, a friend confessed…

Godofredo Rojas

Coach, Writer, & Constant learner. Inspiring people through Personal Stories. https://www.linkedin.com/in/godofredo-rojas-8298531b0/

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